You think too much?


To think too much is to think too much about a problem or for too long.

Do you have something in mind; you continually think about it; the thinking becomes deeper and you start worrying about circumstances, events and potential possibilities that you could end up with conflicting thoughts running through your head. Unfortunately, overthinking is a natural part of life for many of us, even when we are not aware that we are doing it.

Of course, it is vital that we all think constructively. Reflecting on the past can be good for us: having the memories we like to keep but equally important is letting go of the most painful ones. There’s also nothing wrong with reflecting on your current career and life goals, and then planning how to achieve your aspirations.

A case study

Jenny is a 35 year old single client of mine who owns two residential properties, one in central London and one in the suburbs, but can’t decide which property to live in. As a result, she sits for hours on end contemplating whether to live in London and be isolated from her family and friends or move closer to them in the suburbs. This thinking and rethinking has been going on now for more than eight months. Which property to live in and which to rent as an investment? She’s so stressed about this that she can’t think of anything else, and now it’s my job to help discipline her mindset to try to stop overthinking and come to a firm decision.

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Of course, there will be times when you regret missed opportunities and bad decisions and we are all guilty of that at some point. Or you may be worried about the future: your family, your income, your health, or your choice of career. However, you should avoid “thought overload” in which information goes round and round in your head with no resulting resolution. It’s like revving up a car engine without it being in gear: the car stays stationary and only wastes valuable fuel.

When we think too much, it often means that our brain leads us to make wrong assumptions, which in many cases can be negative.

How to stop overthinking

Breaking the cycle is not easy as, unlike our computer, there is no ‘off’ switch. However, perhaps some of the following suggestions might help:


Do you constantly think too much about your career? If you’re not happy with where you are or what you’ve done to date, you need to be proactive and start exploring other options.


If you think you might have upset someone or done something embarrassing, contact the person involved to determine if you need to apologize. The incident may have been inconsequential and the other person may have forgotten about it for a long time, but it’s still at the forefront of your mind, so now might be an opportune time to make a determined effort to stop thinking about it. Or maybe the reason a particular friend or colleague hasn’t contacted you is because he or she is busy and not because they don’t like you.

Challenge your personal beliefs

Our beliefs can be real or imagined and it is too easy to exaggerate them for ourselves. Our inner voice may well be making incorrect negative assumptions, and by challenging them, we can lessen that excessive overthinking.

Be patient

Breaking a cycle of overthinking doesn’t happen overnight, but with practice, it’s certainly possible. The first step is to recognize that you have a mindset that often goes into negative overthinking mode automatically.

When you overthink a problem, you will most likely lose focus on the big picture. To overcome this, you may need a therapist or other professional help, but it will be worth it because it’s important that your mind learns to switch off and focus on those issues that will carry you forward and make a measurable difference. to your life

Key points

We all need peace of mind to work efficiently

It is important to break a cycle of overthinking

Overthinking can prevent you from focusing on the big picture

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